Abstain??

Sexplorer: Romeion Case

“You mus’ know yourself enuh likkle pickney. Low big people stt’n.”

How many times have we heard these words growing up, from the mouths of adults; our parents, aunts, teachers, and friends of the family, urging us to enjoy childhood and to not be in such a hurry to grow up? In many cases, this was used as a response to our incessant plea to be informed about our sexuality. We’ve been told time and time again of the dangers of engaging in activities reserved only for consenting adults and in extreme cases, reprimanded harshly for the Playboy magazine found under a pile of text books. “Wait!” was the message that was repeated over and over again.

It Is this same concept that professionals have taken and have launched campaigns, in an effort to rescue the future of our country. The most recent and notable of these is the ‘Abstinence Mek Sense’ campaign concocted by the ReTv business entity. But is abstinence really a feasible and practical solution to many of the sexual ills faced by our youth.

What does it mean to abstain?

Children are encouraged to try as much as possible to delay their first encounter with sex for as long as possible, in a perfectly coercible world, until marriage, or at least until they are old and responsible enough to deal with the consequences and realities that come with being sexually active. However, what does this really mean for a young man growing up in a sexually charged Jamaica? This meant that we were expected to turn a blind eye to the girls coming to school with their uniforms cut halfway up the thighs, looking as if it was painted on and their breasts poking us in the eye from halfway across the classroom. This meant that we were to turn our heads in the other direction when we saw the half-naked girls in our community, bathing topless at the river and refuse their advances, to be ridiculed and taunted at school by every other boy who has had a ride on the ‘village bicycle.’ This also meant that we were to face much hardship and bashing from community members, labeling us faggots because, “how come u alone deh home a evening time an’ me nuh see nuh gyal a come over deh come get fuck. You a real batty man enuh.” Are you serious?

The reality

The fact of the matter is that, growing up, we were privy to more information about sex and were consequently more responsible than many of the illiterate, high school drop-outs getting their rabbit thing on in our communities. However, we could not see ourselves traveling to and from school with artistes blaring in our ears “back it up, skin it out, dig out the red” and not feel compelled to find nice young thing and do the same. The truth is, we were consumed by sex in every direction, the TV, the radio, the internet, the tabloids, trash talking community members, experienced peers and teachers telling us not to get involved in activities we had no prior intention of engaging in. And in the midst of all this, we were expected to be A+ students at school and were punished if our averages didn’t satisfy the egotistical cravings of our parents. Punished! Punished for trying our best to cope with the harsh realities of being a teenager by the people who should know more than anyone what it was like to deal with what we were going through, seeing that mom is only 17 years older than I am, and aunty looks as though she and her third child could be paternal twins.

Abstinence Makes Sense for Who?

So the question that loomed over our young heads was, who was this abstinence thing really for? Were they really concerned with our future and our safety or were they just afraid of the ‘shame’ that would come with having a high school drop-out working in a super-market or the community garage, trying to make enough for a pack of ‘lasco’ for the week; Afraid of church members talking behind their backs in the vestry or afraid of falling out of the good graces of the communities very spiritual poco leader? Were we really expected to concentrate in school with all this going on all of a sudden in out lives? The results were then clear. Abstinence didn’t make sense for us. We knew then what we had to do. And so we buckled down like the responsible young people we were supposed to be, worked hard at school, worked equally hard at home doing exorbitant amounts of chores and our reward was, you guessed it, hot steamy sex in the neighbor’s banana walk with his voluptuous teen daughter, or on on his weathered couch with the spring sticking out at the corner and a quick ‘backas’ after school in the prefect’s room.

Solution?

Teenagers are humans and are not some specie to be understood and coerced. They are to be reasoned with and respected if parents want to keep their beautiful daughter from becoming the Chancellor 'Block Betty'. The truth is that, human beings by nature are curious beings and being told not to do something, serves only as an invitation to partake. Of course there are dangers out there that our youth need protecting against, but telling them to avoid them altogether while encouraging them I school to increase knowledge in every area possible, is pure hypocrisy. There are ways and means of achieving the greatest good for our sexually charged teens, but take it from a young man, abstinence is not the way.

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ALL THERE IS TO KNOW ABOUT SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS

SEXPLORER: Sean L. Baugh


Sexually transmitted diseases are one of the main issues affecting young people today. Although STDs are constantly on the agenda, the message is still missed or, rather, ignored. It becomes increasingly important that we continue to speak about and educate young adults about the dangers of contracting an STD.

STDs are classified into 5 categories based on type: bacterial, fungal, viral, parasitic and protozoal.
When we think about STDs, we don’t typically imagine that there is a breakdown into the various types and how they are spread. Nor do we generally consider fungal, parasitic or protozoal infections as STDs, although they are classified as such. In this article we will take a closer look at STDs, examining not only the more common infections, but also those that are less well-known.

~Bacterial STDs include: Chanchroid, Chlamydia, Granuloma inguinale, Gonorrhea and Syphilis.
~Fungal STDs include: Granuloma inguinale (jock itch) and Granuloma inguinale (yeast infection).
~Viral STDs include: Viral hepatitis (Hepatitis B virus), Herpes simplex, HIV/ AIDS, HPV, Molluscum contagiosum (molluscum contagiosum virus MCV).
~Parasitic STDs include: Crab louse and Scabies.
~Protozoal STDs include: Trichomoniasis.

Each type of infection has a different means in which it may be transmitted. Bacterial infections are transmitted by physical contact, and contact of mucus membranes. All types of sexual intercourse, including outercourse, may transmit these infections. Fungal infections are transmitted by skin to skin contact, not necessarily sexual contact. For women, a yeast infection may be problematic, but is not so much a sexually transmitted infection as it is the result of an improper hormone balance, or the development of the conditions that allow the fungus to grow. The same applies for jock itch, which typically plagues men, but also affects women. This simple fungus is essentially like that of common ringworm and is highly contagious and difficult to treat, even though it is supposed to be simple. For example, the areas affected by jock itch are not primarily the areas that are exposed, but rather those that are always in clothing. Parasitic infections are also easily transmissible by physical contact, not necessarily by sexual contact, but more probable with sexual intercourse. With sexual intercourse comes constant contact, and the parasites move from one body to the next and multiply. Protozoal infections are transmitted via sexual contact, including contact from all membranes.

Education on sexually transmitted diseases is nothing new, as education starts at an early age. Our doctors, teachers, counselors, television, internet, and other media aid in the dissemination of information about sexually transmitted diseases. Of all these methods, the internet is proving to be the most effective way of providing educational articles about various STDs, including details on how to recognize signs of infection.

STDs may have serious complications if left untreated, and this is especially true in women. Apart from death and other visible signs of illness, STDs may cause sterility and other reproductive problems. It is very sad to realize that one may never have a child because of a past infection, especially when you are ready and willing to take on the responsibility.

HIV (Human Immunodeficiency Virus) is the most lethal of all STDs, because of its rapid progression to AIDS (Aquired Immuno-deficiency syndrome) which, as its name implies, is acquired after untreated infection with HIV. Many persons, even with the large volumes of educational material available, confuse the virus (HIV) with the aquired syndrome (AIDS).
It is important to stress the fact that the two are not the same, but rather that HIV develops into AIDS, which is caused by the destruction of the immune system by the virus. Modern medicine has led to the development of anti retroviral pills that combat the virus and delay its progression into AIDS.

Sexually transmitted diseases have become even more relevant in today’s society because of the increasing number of sexually active persons, the breakdown in monogamous practices, and the fact that people are becoming sexually active at younger ages. This means that education must be constant and rigorous and must be started at an earlier age.

Related links:
http://www.epigee.org/guide/stds.html
http://www.avert.org/std.htm
http://www.emedicinehealth.com/sexually_transmitted_diseases/article_em.htm

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TAKING 'MATTERS' INTO YOUR OWN HANDS

SEXPLORER: Volney Barrett


He is alone at home. She is at her house, and her boyfriend is not there. They are both sexually aroused. He grabs his member, places it in the palm of his hands and starts to stroke it gently, and then faster. She inserts a finger or two into her private area or stimulates her clitoris. A few minutes later they achieve their desired release, through their act of masturbation.


Known as a safe and healthy way of achieving sexual release, the act of masturbation is not something that people are willing to admit to. A student of the University of the West Indies(UWI) at Mona, who prefers to remain anonymous, said that he finds that the more educated people who masturbate will more likely admit to it than the less educated. In the Jamaican scenario, like the world over, people view it as something that only lonely people do.

*Leslie* from Kingston and *Tanisha* from Montego Bay, both confessed that they masturbate. Both in their early twenties, they noted that they started pretty early.
He started masturbating at age 12 because at the time he thought that it was one of life’s greatest experiences. He was also introduced to pornography early in his life, around the age of 12. He said that he thought it was the best thing to do.

“It just seemed like the thing to do, especially after I found porn,” he confessed. “I usually masturbate when watching (Latina) porn.”

He is not in a committed relationship at present; however, he is having sex. Presently a second- year student in the faculty of Humanities and Education at the UWI, he said that masturbation for him is a great and safe way to achieve a quick climax.

“I masturbate at least once or maybe four or five times or more per day… it depends on my mood,” Leslie pointed out.

He does not expect masturbation to affect his future prospects of getting involved in a long-term relationship.

*Tanisha*, on the other hand, said that she does not do it as much as she did when she started at 14. She said she only does it when she is not with her boyfriend and when she feels lonely.

On the medical side, researchers have said that masturbation is a healthy practice. Dr. Andrew Weil, noted American author and physician, said on his website: www.drweil.com, “A team of scientists in Australia found that men who ejaculate more frequently between the ages of 20 and 50 are less likely to develop prostate cancer.

The protective effect seems greatest for those in their 20's. Results from the study, published in the August 2003 issue of BJU International showed that men who ejaculated more than five times per week were one-third less likely to develop aggressive prostate cancer in their later years.

The result contradicts an older belief that high frequency of sexual activity increases the incidence of prostate cancer.”

Masturbation, according to www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au, also has medical benefits for women. It helps to ease some of the symptoms of premenstrual syndrome, relief from menstrual cramps, muscle relaxation, reduces stress and enhances self-esteem.

RELIGIOUS VIEWPOINT
According to "Religious Views on Masturbation" on Wikipedia.org "among the world's religions, views on masturbation vary widely. Some religions view it as a spiritually detrimental practice, some see it as not spiritually detrimental and others take a situational view.

Among these latter religions, some view masturbation as allowable if used as a means towards sexual self-control, or as part of healthy self-exploration, but disallow it if it is done with wrong motives or as an addiction.

James Dobson, chairman of the board of Focus on the Family, a nonprofit Christian organization, considers it part of normal adolescent exploration and strongly urges parents not to shame their children over the act lest they have marital difficulties later because of shame of their sexuality.

At the same time, he believes that it becomes an addiction and an escape from intimacy for some and argues against it in that case. Richard Dobbins' book Teaching Your Children the Truth About Sex takes a similar approach. His overall approach is one of "neither condemn nor condone" the act.

He looks at it multi-factorally to determine its ethics. He gives a lot of advice to parents in the matter. Herbert J. Miles in Sexual Understanding Before Marriage also takes a similar approach. He views the act as a controlled tool of sexual self-control for single males and advises them in that way, while also pointing males to nocturnal emissions.

His view toward single females in the matter is different per their biology and lack of semen buildup, and he urges young women to wait to experience their first orgasm with their husband, while not making it a sin if they masturbate."



Video Answering commonly asked questions about masturbation as well as debunking common myths associated with the practice, from Kara_Sutra, a sex Educator.

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POPULAR JAMAICAN SEX MYTHS CLARIFIED

SEXPLORER: Sean L. Baugh


Jamaicans are a colourful people with quite a diverse culture. While sexual myths are popular in any culture let us examine those that are most popular here in Jamaica. There are myths that are of a more serious nature involving STD’s and pregnancy, while there are also some other silly myths about what makes a woman more or less desirable.

Myth No. 1:
Now that I am 18 sex is okay
Many girls and boys believe that once they turn 18, or even the legal age of consent at 16, that sex is okay. The reality is that sex is not something that should be approached lightly because of the dangerous diseases and responsibilities that come with it. Sexual activity is a choice that is to be made with full consideration for all eventualities that may result from sexual activity. In Jamaica many parents do not condone early sexual activity and this results in some children sleeping around discreetly and not using the necessary protection, due mainly to a lack of money or means to obtain them.

Myth No. 2:
No one else is a virgin nowadays
Teenagers may tend to believe that they may be the only virgins left, and this may be an embarrassing prospect, especially within secondary schools. Hearing about your friends’ sexual activity tends to make those who have not had any experience feel self conscious because they have not had those experiences, which may appear to be vital within the age group.

Myth No. 3:
We love each other so we should have sex
It becomes difficult, when two young adults feel love for each other, to make an informed decision on sex. The belief that sex is the next step is false, as it is possible to love and leave sex for when both parties feel ready. In fact, any boyfriend who forces, cajoles or even threatens a girl for sex is not the right guy nor does he respect the girl.

Myth No. 4:
Girls must douche to keep the vagina clean
Douching has been proven to be a dangerous practice. The act of douching may actually force bacteria further up towards the reproductive organs, with dire consequences. According to gynecologists, the best way to ensure the vagina stays clean is to simply leave it alone.


Myth No. 5:
Pulling out before ejaculation protects against pregnancy
This myth is totally false. During sex males produce a liquid commonly referred to as ‘pre-cum’, which is secreted from the penis as a means of aiding lubrication. This natural process may secrete sperm, and makes pregnancy a possibility.

Myth No. 6:
Having sex standing up prevents pregnancy
This myth has come about because of the belief that when a guy ejaculates while both partners are in a standing position, the sperm will flow downward rather than upwards into the reproductive tract. This myth shows how little is known about the female reproductive system.
Sex in any position may lead to pregnancy.

Myth No. 7:
Condoms don’t work and people might as well go ‘bare back’
The truth is that condoms, especially those with spermicidal solutions, when used correctly, are very effective in preventing pregnancy and the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases.

Myth No. 8:
AIDS only affects homosexuals
HIV doesn’t discriminate, and affects both heterosexual and homosexual persons alike. The spread of the virus has been aided by misguided beliefs that it only affects homosexual people, supposedly as a form of punishment.

Myth No. 9:
Only men masturbate
Both men and women have sexual needs and both sexes masturbate as a way of relieving sexual tension. Women as well as men enjoy masturbation.

Myth No. 10:
Herpes is only transmissible when there is an outbreak
The truth is that the risk of transmission is highest during an outbreak, but the virus is transmissible at all times, especially by those who have the virus but show no signs or symptoms. Carriers may shed the virus at all times and never have any obvious signs of infection. It is important to use condoms and dental dams. Even though these may not always protect against herpes, they are highly effective in minimizing risk of infection.

Other Myths
There are many other sexual myths that are quite silly, and relate to women and various attributes that supposedly make them better in bed. These myths include those of bow legged women, women with a large butt and wide thighs, women who have a gap in their teeth (which supposedly makes them more sexual), and women who are muscular and physically fit (who supposedly take charge and provide a more powerful sexual experience.

Another myth is that only white women come to Jamaica to take advantage of sex tourism. The local “rent a dread” sex trade is highly popular in the tourist destinations, and has many women flocking the island’s shores for vacation. The truth is that many black women also come to take advantage of sex tourism; it is not limited to white American women.

These sexual myths are still believed by Jamaicans today, and so it becomes important to educate and clear up these myths, and replace them with the truth so as to ensure healthy sexual practices. However, even after educating the people, some myths may remain. It may not be so much about what is true, but rather what people would like to believe, because it adds to the experience.

Related links:
http://www.all-jamaica.com/jamaica/sun_sex.html
http://www.jamaica-gleaner.com/gleaner/20080720/out/out8.html
http://www.jamaica-gleaner.com/gleaner/20080816/feature/feature1.html
http://www.xomba.com/jamaican_myths_sex

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IS SEX THE ANSWER FOR SCHOOL PRESSURE?

SEXPLORER: Volney L. Barrett


You have to attend classes on time and keep up with the back to back deadlines for assignments. Then there are final papers to do and maybe a group project that is just not going right because not all the members are pulling their weight. And yes, you’ve got final exams to think about. More sleepless nights, and you’re tired. Then it just gets to be too much for you. You need a way to cope with your stress. You meet someone at school; you like each other, and then comes the sex. It feels good; it helps to relieve the stress associated with school. But is this the best way to cope with your stress?

Some students are able to cope effectively with the overwhelming pressure that comes with tertiary level studies, while others aren't. Over the years, some students have resorted to various stress-relieving solutions, ranging from music, to alcohol, to casual sex.

In an article published in the University of the West Indies (UWI) at Mona's Campus Beat newspaper of December 2009, Caribbean Institute of Media and Communication (CARIMAC) student/journalist, Datonya Ottey-McLaren, interviewed a male member of the University’s basketball team who confessed to turning to this means for stress relief.

The final-year management studies student was quoted in the article as saying: “I don’t put things on my head; I just forget about it and deal with it later. Like right now I have a 20-page essay to complete, so instead of thinking about it, I would do something like drink with my boys, hang out with my friends, link a girl, link my girl … we will have sex …if that comes up; but sex is not like the main thing [to release the tension],” the student told Campus Beat.

Newly installed vice-president of the UWI at Mona's Universities and Colleges Apostolic Ministries (UCAM), Shanario Whitfield, explained that this type of behaviour is not acceptable. He warned that having sex with just about anyone does not only have physical repercussions, but spiritual ones as well.

“When you have sex with someone, their spirit and your's become one. So just imagine you sleep with someone who has been with three partners, and those three partners have been with the world...so technically speaking, you have had sex with the world, and it wouldn't look good on your resume for a job,” Whitfield, a second year Physics student, explained.

Second year Government and Social Sciences major, who we will call *Nadine*, shared her feelings on the issue.

“Well I guess (I would want to have sex to relieve my stress) cause many times when I'm in such a position I feel like I would just do it, but several reasons prevent me from doing it. I heard from my peers that it helps a whole lot,” *Nadine* said.

“It has to do with how I was socialized, coupled with the fact that I’ve heard numerous horror stories about doing it for the first time…how painful it is, in addition to the fact that I like the idea of being chased,” she added.

When asked how she copes, she said: “Firstly, because of my strong beliefs as it relates to why I'm not sexually active. Secondly, my ability to resist such temptations even when I sincerely want it to yield. Thirdly, for the most part, the few guys who have the ability to sweep me off my feet are never aware of it, hence I am never approached by them forcefully and I am not the type of girl to even indicate to them the way I feel about them. Hence, for the most part, I am in control of my game.”

Michelle Smith, a published author, stress and pain management professional, said that sex can unwind and bind you.

She wrote in a published article that when she woke up after what she called “a sexcapade” with her husband, she felt extremely refreshed. She pointed out that sex with your partner, when done right, preferably between a husband and wife, is one of the best routes to stress relief.

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The Penile Curve :The Banana-Clip Syndrome

SEXPLORER: Romeion Case




Peyronie’s disease, as it is known within medical circles, is an extreme curvature of the penis, to the point where sex is very uncomfortable or, in the more severe cases, impossible.

Information gathered from the Male Health Center website reveals that many men will notice a slight bend in their penis, and that a certain degree of curvature of the penis is considered normal. However, in some cases of Peyronie’s Disease the penis may bend severely upwards, downwards, to the right, to the left or even backward on itself, making sexual intercourse impossible.

The Cause
The cause of the disease is largely unknown; however, scientists theorize that it may be caused by some trauma to the penis. The healing process may have been irregular, resulting in the scarring of tissue and the consequent curvature.

Characteristics of the disease.
It is usually possible to identify the disease within the first 9 to 18 months, when patients usually experience severe pain and notice the physical manifestations of the deformity. However, it is unlikely that after this period the penis will continue to bend. In 20% of the cases identified in the United States, the penis goes back to normal without any treatment. However, those who have the disease may notice a difficulty in achieving an erection, which doctors attribute to the reduction of blood flow to the penis due to the curve.


Treatment
The disease is well known within medical circles, and so there are a number of known treatment methods available to patients affected by the disease. The following information received from embarrasingproblems.com, a website run exclusively by doctors, lists some ways in which relief can be achieved.

Cocoa butter cream: Some men with mild Peyronie’s disease say that massaging cocoa butter cream into the curved area is helpful.

Steroid injections: In the past, the most common treatment was steroid injection into the thickening, but this is now less popular.

Vitamin E tablets are sometimes recommended, but there is scanty scientific evidence to show that they help. Do not take more than 250 mg of vitamin E a day, as higher doses may damage your health.

Tamoxifen is a medication that may reduce the thickened area.

Sound waves are a new treatment for Peyronie’s disease. Preliminary research has shown that high energy sound waves reduce pain, and also somewhat decrease the size of the thickened area. More research is needed to see how effective this treatment really is.

Verapamil is a medication that is used to treat blood pressure. Injections of Verapamil into the thickened area may help, but more research is needed.

Surgery to correct the deformity is the most effective treatment. In the usual operation, the surgeon cuts out some tissue from the opposite side to balance out the thickened area. After the operation, the erect penis should be straight, and may be 1–3 cm shorter than before, but many men do not notice any difference. Studies have shown that only 58–88% of men are satisfied with the result of the operation, partly because while it does straighten the penis, it leaves the thickened area in place, so it may still be painful. Also, a few men have difficulty achieving an erection after the operation.

The disease has not been widely reported in Jamaica, although some artistes have used their lyrics to compare a slight curve of the penis to the clip from a rifle (the banana clip).
Though the disease is not life-threatening, it is advisable that men who have concerns about their penis seek the opinion of a professional, so that they may have access to the necessary treatment.

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DOES ABSTINENCE MAKE SENSE?

SEXPLORER: Volney L. Barrett


Safer-sex campaigners in Jamaica have begun to encourage people who are not ready for sex to abstain from it as it is the best way to ensure protection against sexually transmitted diseases such as HIV/AIDS. But in today’s world, is abstinence really practical?

Three tertiary level students gave their take on this very hot-button issue which many of their peers say cannot work for them.

*Nadine*, a 22-year-old second-year student doing a Government-related course in the faculty of Social Sciences at the University of the West Indies (UWI)at Mona, confessed that she has never been sexually active, and finds it extremely challenging to abstain because all her friends have already had sex.

“Even though I have been abstaining for all my life, I think it’s a difficult thing to do. I don’t know how I do it but I figure if I can then others must be able to as well.”

She said that some of the first-time sex experience stories that she has heard have played a major role in her not becoming sexually active.

“I guess it has to do with how I was socialized, coupled by the fact that I’ve heard numerous horror stories about doing it for the first time … how painful it is, in addition to the fact that I like the idea of being chased,” Nadine further revealed.

Many of her peers, she argued, don’t buy into abstinence because they think they should be free to express their feelings sexually, without boundaries.

Abstinence is also encouraged by the church. Christians say that the bible forbids any sexual activity outside of marriage. This rule is even rejected by some Christians (young people in particular) who insist that they do not want any ‘puss in a bag.’ This is a common argument among Jamaicans, who have said that they should experience what sex with their partner is like before the relationship becomes more serious.

Shanario Whitfield, a second-year Physics major at the UWI, said that abstinence is a good thing. The newly elected vice-president of the Universities and Colleges Apostolic Ministries (UCAM) said that he too has been abstaining all his life.

“I believe it (abstinence) is very practical in today's society and, using myself as an example, being a virgin and proud to say so, it is very achievable. My philosophy is, if you put your mind to it, and place God before it, it can be achieved.”

Some tertiary students, over the years, have had casual sex resulting in unwanted pregnancies. As a result, these young mothers are forced, in many cases, to put their studies on hold. Faced with the responsibilities of being a mother, some have not been able to return.

Nadine also spoke about how abstaining from sex, and sticking to one faithful partner, can protect your life.

“Well it is often said that it’s (abstinence) the safest method that can be used to prevent STDs and STIs that can be detrimental or deadly. It can also cause unwanted pregnancy, thus presenting several implications. But as it relates to married couples, their bed is undefiled,” Nadine added.

Whitfield, 21, advises from a spiritual perspective that sex is a sacred activity and should be treated as such.

“Someone (who is not yet married) should abstain from intercourse, because when you have sex with someone their spirit and your's become one. So just imagine you sleep with someone who has been with three partners, and those three partners have been with the world...technically speaking, you have had sex with the world,” Whitfield advised.

Glenroy McIntosh, a second-year student of the UWI at Mona who is pursing his Education degree, confessed that he is sexually active. He said that he regrets doing it because it went against his Christian principles.

“I know it contradicts my Christian beliefs and as such I have decided to stop. I've now been celibate for almost three months now. She (his partner) doesn't have a problem with having sex outside of marriage … I regretted doing it but it’s already gone and I am just trying not to make it happen again.

“Abstinence is still practical; however, to a certain extent. Abstinence avoids sexual intercourse totally - whether oral or penetration … I wouldn't regard petting as having sex; however, it’s dangerous, as it could lead to sexual intercourse,” he added.

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